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Couples Therapy Breakthrough?

“All right, I’m glad you both came. I’m glad you’ve both committed to the process. The sign of a healthy relationship is when the people in the relationship acknowledge that its health is not a given and that you have to work consistently at improving it. Emmett, I’m picking up from your body language a sense that you may not be on board with that.”
“No, I’m fine. Actually, I’ve been great. We’ve been great. Everything is great.”
“Is that how you feel, Fanny?”
“I wouldn’t say great. Actually, I wouldn’t say that at all.”
“What are you talking about, baby? We’ve been great.”
“You don’t speak for me. I don’t think ‘we’ve’ been great.”

“Go with that, Fanny.”
“Emmett’s been tough to deal with lately. There’s been so much undependability.”
“What undependability? I said I’d keep to a schedule, and I do.”
“I never know what your schedule is. Last month you’d keep me up late at night, you’d tell me you were going to be there one night and then you’re not, then I’m supposed to meet you at 4 o’clock in the afternoon and then you tell me you can only give me seven innings of your time at a time.”
“Baby, you know I work when they tell me to work. I can’t control the time. I can’t control the weather. You’re gonna blame when it rains?”
“And I don’t even know what day it is with you sometimes. You told me to come see you early in the afternoon on the last day of August and I get there and everybody’s telling me, ‘no, Fanny, this isn’t August 31, it’s April 11.’ I feel like you’re gaslighting me.”
“Baby, I told you, I got crazy hours. I don’t always know what day it is either. I just need you to support me whatever day it is.”

“Emmett, do you think that unconditional support is a lot to ask of Fanny?”
“Fanny always told me that’s what I’d get.”
“And you don’t think you’re receiving it? Fanny right now is wearing your name on more than one article of clothing.”
“Fanny says I’m No. 1, but doesn’t treat me like I’m No. 1.”
“Fanny, do you think there’s a valid disconnect between your actions and Emmett’s perceptions?”
“Emmett, you’re always No. 1 to me, but lately you’ve been like No. 3 to everybody else. You make it tough for me to support you emotionally when you’re so difficult…”
“What? What am I difficult about?”
“So difficult to watch.”
“I’m difficult to watch? Why do you look at me so much, then?”
“Because I can’t look away.”

“What we have here is a classic codependency. Emmett, Fanny wants to stay focused on you, but you have to be watchable. And Fanny, Emmett wants to appreciate your appreciation, but you also have to transmit a message that’s clear.”
“Hear that, baby? You clearly don’t appreciate me!”
“I didn’t hear that. I hear that you think I owe you a big standing ovation every time you walk into my midst.”
“Why wouldn’t you applaud me? I’m Emmett! My name’s right there on that shirt! And my initials are on that hat!”
“Just because I love you and I’m loyal to you, it doesn’t mean I approve of everything you do.”

“Fanny, tell Emmett what your areas of concern are.”
“Emmett, you said this last month was gonna be different, and I believed you. I saw you were backsliding as early as that trip to Philadelphia, but you said, ‘naw, Fanny, it’s OK, smile, I got this.’”
“And I did. What about Washington?”
“What about Los Angeles? What about San Francisco?”
“Oh, so now I gotta be perfect for you to love me?”

“Emmett, Fanny’s already expressed love for you.”
“Fanny says that, but when I have tough times — and I admit I have my faults — where’s the love then?”
“The love is in my anger.”
“Whoa, I don’t get that at all.”

“Fanny, explain to Emmett what you mean.”
“Emmett, I can’t watch you when you’re the way you are with Los Angeles and San Francisco and pretend everything’s all right. I gotta let it out some way.”
“I wasn’t so bad with them. I stayed within one run almost all of those times.”
“That’s not all right! That’s the opposite of all right!
“Fine, you got me. I wasn’t at my best with them. But what about Washington?”
“Am I supposed to get excited every time you do the bare minimum of what you’re supposed to do?”
“Yes! Yes, you are! For better or for worse, remember?”
“I didn’t think there’d be this much worse!”

“OK, let’s calm down. I want you to each address this recurring theme we seem to have in which you, Fanny, reach what might be described as a breaking point with Emmett, and in which you, Emmett, respond without necessarily grasping the core of Fanny’s volatility. Fanny?”
“I get upset sometimes, so I boo.”
“Emmett, how does that make you feel?”
“You wanna know how I feel? This is how I feel.”

“Emmett, we’ve spoken before about you making gestures at Fanny.”
“Well, I can’t boo back, so I gotta do something.”
“Why don’t you just do better?”
“I told you, I did good against Washington! Doesn’t that count for anything with you?”
“Why couldn’t you do good against Philadelphia? Or Los Angeles? Or San Francisco? You embarrassed me against San Francisco!”

“Please, let’s not cast judgments and let’s not go in circles. Fanny, how does that gesture Emmett made toward you make you feel, especially knowing what it means?”
“I feel Emmett doesn’t understand me and doesn’t care what I think. I feel like I’m supposed to be some sort of trained seal, uncritically clapping.”
“Emmett?”
“Why not a little more clapping? Why not recognize that I’m trying to do my best and that it doesn’t always work out? Why not motivate me with some praise instead of this constant criticism?”
“How much praise do you expect for a month like you’ve had?”

“Fanny, is it just the last month?”
“Every month is a struggle with Emmett. I know there were some good months, but they’re always hard.”
“Thank you. Thank you for recognizing that what I do is hard.”
“I do recognize that. But having to stand by while you let opportunity after opportunity go by and tell you how wonderful you are every damn day — it’s exhausting.”

“Emmett, you’re making the gesture again. I have to say it’s counterproductive.”
“Fanny criticizes me, I criticize Fanny. See if Fanny likes it.”
“Fanny?”
“I don’t like it. I’m this close to being done with Emmett.”
“Emmett?”
“Fanny’s always ‘I’m done, I’m done,’ but then it’s ‘let’s go, Emmett,’ like everything’s great. So how am I supposed to know that I did something wrong?”

“The two of you seem farther apart than when you walked in here. I have some exercises I’d like you each to partake in before our next session. Emmett, why are you making that gesture at me again?”
“I don’t have time for exercises. Look, baby, does this make it any better?”
“What is it?”
“Go ahead. Open it.”
“It’s…it’s a win! It’s a dramatic win! It has five runs in the ninth! Oh, Emmett, I love it! I love you!”
“Yeah, baby, look closer.”
“Oh, another win! How come it’s smaller?”
“It’s only seven innings. I couldn’t fit a bigger one in there.”
“I still love it. And I still love you.”
“Yeah, baby. I love you, too. I mean, I’m sorry about making the gesture and whatever.”
“Oh, don’t worry about that. You got me these two wins. That must mean we’re all good.”

“Listen, you two have deep-seated issues. Emmett, it’s very nice you that you gave Fanny this present, and Fanny, it’s very encouraging that you’re showing gratitude for this specific action, but I have to tell you, none of what’s bothering either one of you is going to go away with two wins over Miami at the end of August.”
“April. One’s from April. Technically.”
“Regardless. A win here or a win there and the surge of positive emotion it briefly brings to the fore isn’t the same as a long-term answer.”
“Emmett, I’m going to be there for you all of September and into October starting tomorrow night!”
“Uh, make it the next night.”
“I thought you were scheduled for September 1.”
“Rain, baby.”
“Again? Aw, I don’t care. These wins are so gorgeous. I wanna see how they look with this shirt and this cap.”

“Our time is up.”

22 comments to Couples Therapy Breakthrough?

  • ljcmets

    Genius! Til Death do us Part…one of your best, Greg.

  • ljcmets

    If Emmett doesn’t learn to be there for Fanny consistently – less Streaky – Phil might just slip in as #1. Page Six headline: “Mr. and Mrs. Met broken up by Phanatic!”

  • open the gates

    The difference with this relationship is that Emmett is never allowed to criticize Fanny, but Fanny is allowed to boo Emmett’s performance whenever she wants. Because Fanny paid for the performance, and she deserves her money’s worth. And there’s one metaphor I will NOT take to its logical conclusion.

  • Greg Mitchell

    It’s that time of year when your team is somewhat in contention and you can draw up results for every series henceforth and plot a miracle–or, if you will, very plausible, finish. So here’s how the Mets overtake the Braves (now with Albies hurt) without even sweeping the final series. Note: this leaves out the Phils who may be more dangerous because hotter now and easier schedule.

    So METS go 18-11:

    vs. Wash 3-2
    Miami 2-1
    Yanks 1-2
    St.L 2-1
    Phil 2-1
    Boston 1-1
    Mil 2-1
    Miami 3-1
    Atl 2-1

    BRAVES go 12-18

    LA 0-1
    Colo 2-2
    Wash 2-1
    Miami 1-2
    Colo 1-2
    SF 1-2
    AZ 2-2
    SD 1-2
    Phil 1-2
    NY 1-2

    • mikeL

      nice work emmet but i’m committing to this relationship one day at a time. i’ve been burned with so many what-if’s and mathematical still-in-it’s!
      for all the talk of the ’73 run (where i entered this tumultuous relationship, and it’s all somewhat foggy) this team may do well to channel the knife-edge trajectory of ’99 team to pull off an unlikely division crown (not that i’m ready to believe just yet); the ’99 mets though we’re far more healthy and talented than the current cast of characters, and had in bobby v. an experienced and masterful skipper who could push all the right buttons without a net. for me, just about the best mets late season ever. at least until kenny rogers…

    • 9th string catcher

      I was doing the same calculations this morning and also came up with 18-11! Slightly different outcomes – I had Boston sweeping and 1-2 vs Milwaukee, but basically the same on the Mets outcomes. Didn’t dive into Atlanta – I have a hard time thinking 83 wins will take the division, but wouldn’t rule it out in this crazy season.

      Now, if they could go 20-9…

  • Jacobs27

    Two thumbs up to this post.

    I am glad that a) Emmett/Baez did not strike out in that pivotal AB
    and b) that he only hit a single to set up his scoring from first on Conforto’s single.

    There was something very fitting to it.

    If he had taken big swings and whiffed there, the crowd might still be booing as we speak…

  • Dave

    What this therapist was failing to address is that Emmett and Fanny have a very hierarchical relationship. Emmett has lots of options and reaps rewards whether he makes Fanny happy or not. Meanwhile Fanny is irreversibly committed to Emmett no matter what, and always has been. Unhealthy.

  • Seth

    Isn’t baseball amazing? Not only did the opportunity to come through arise (how often recently have they even HAD the tying runs on base in the 9th?), but it was Baez himself that came through. You gotta love it, Emmett.

  • Seth

    And hey — yikes. These guys are so well paid they’re shedding diamonds as they cross home plate… well, at least they’re crossing the plate.

  • Left Coast Jerry

    Greg, it never ceases to amaze me just how imaginative you are. As many years as you and Jason have been writing this blog, you always find some new spin that you haven’t used before. I was especially looking forward to your comments on yesterday’s action. Considering we had the reaction to the thumbs down, the incredible 9th inning rally and the sweep of two games that were officially played more than 4 months apart. You certainly didn’t disappoint. Of course, you never disappoint. Bravo!!

  • MikeS

    In the hindsight is 20/20 department, did anyone see what Amed Rosario did yesterday? Went 5 for 5 with 2 homers and is batting .290.

    • mikeL

      yup, just last week i read a comment that rosario
      was hitting .282.
      i saw this most recent one in the post – those HRs: one innie and one outie no less! just had to tip
      my cap to the cleveland front office: they traded bling for swing. at 34M a year lindor’s gotta *hope* he can keep up with the guy he replaced!

      nice that jimenez was sent over too. that opened the door for…javi baez for crow-armstrong.

      and while on the subject of front-office flops:
      acting GM scott has been grounded…

  • Eric

    Off-topic, but well wishes to Howie Rose, who called 2 of his best games of this season yesterday. Wayne Randazzo is excellent in his own right, if not iconic and not a childhood Mets fan like his partner. I look forward to listening to Randazzo call a game with a color analyst. I guess this means Randazzo will be taken off the postgame show, which would be too bad since he excels at that, too. If so, maybe Pete McCarthy can be brought back to do the postgame.

    As for the Lindor trade, I preferred keeping homegrown Rosario and Gimenez while also being a bigger fan of homegrown Guillorme than either of them.

    So, SS was a deep strength, not a problem area for me. I wanted the ‘splash’ signing(s) to be Realmuto and/or Springer. But what’s done is done, and we’re ‘married’ to Lindor for better or worse.

  • eric1973

    Tonite – 7p – Matz vs. Harvey
    Met-See TV!!!!!

    And I guess we’ll get to Zack Scott tomorrow.
    How’s your process going now, Asshole!

    • mikeL

      …it’s as though the wilpons brilliantly turned the team over to the only people who could possibly make them look not-worse!

  • Greg, you’re still the best.

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